Just Simply Put:

 Reflections

Every season starts with a first seed in the soil. This blog is mine. I don't know yet what it will grow into- stories, reflections, maybe a little advice from the garden and kitchen-but I do know it will be honest. You've found your way here, welcome. Let's see where this path takes us."

Today, however, I would like to talk about;

"Why Do Men feel the need to respond with, ' Now you're going to accuse me?" By the way, it only screams, "You're Guilty"

So, is it because they're guilty from the start, and this is their way of confessing, but...?
Or is it because they're unsure of what you might say to them, which immediately raises red flags for me?
It's like telling a little child, ' Guess what? You're telling on your own. ' Are you taking accountability?

And this is where the but... comes into play...

At this point, men will come up with every type of scenario and a little bit of confusion to remix it, only to turn the question around towards you. However, this is when it's essential to listen and really focus.

What gets me is when people try to play on my intelligence, as if telling me. It's
healthier not to wash your food, and you can clearly see at the grocery store that many people handle the food, and there's no such thing as germs and viruses!

I've learned to be still and to let people finish their response, or rather, their story, even when they include incomplete information. This also allows me to reflect on past issues or experiences of a similar nature. Heck, I'll even reflect all the way to Adam and Eve, then I'll realize this isn't a man thing, but a people thing. The imperfection of people and the manipulative culture we live in. Yikes! If you're an individual like me, a little bit of that fairytale belief even comes to mind about how we believe the marriage or relationship between couples is supposed to be... You know, the happily ever after crap sold to us as when we were growing up tots!?

Generally, before I acquired the knowledge that came with growing and maturing mentally, I would act out entirely without any Resolve. The response using the word 'accuse' gives me a feeling of indifference, neither here nor there, because this is when I expect a particularly formal response unrelated to whatever question was asked. The primary reference I always return to is the Bible, specifically Proverbs 16, which provides a foundation for knowledge. Through study, I receive answers to the questions I ask. Yes, of course, I'm married, as you can tell by now. Not everyone thinks as I do, I know that.

Some might even say, I put 20 on 10. Why not? I don't want to come across as insensitive, but this might be a reason for the lack of understanding of our society! People are content to be followers; it is what it is, in a sense. Whatever it is, I'm doing or thinking, such as!

Why do men respond with 'I'm being accused without facts'? The question instead should be why people choose to distort information to defend themselves.

Due to selfish thinking and having a habit of speaking without thought, which brings about ruin to your mental and emotional being. I have also read that the heart of understanding is that one acquires knowledge, which is always wise to be still instead, and listen, while the other will respond with disgrace.